Center for Healthy Sex website:centerforhealthysex.com

Unmanagability

There are a lot of "functioning" addicts out there, whatever that means!  People who are highly compartmentalized can "function" in life.  That means, they can fool their partners, their bosses, and even themselves, for awhile.  Eventually though, the addiction always catches up with them.

In the tradition of the 12-steps "unmanagability" really means "messes."    People who are involved in any kind of addiction will always have some mess in their lives because they favor the addictive behaviors over taking care of their needs and their responsabilities.  These messes are a result of the addiction and are considered evidence for how the addict's life has become unmanagable.

Unmanagability can range from being chronically late to work, not being fully present with your kids, getting caught in lies, loosing a job, getting arrested, feeling like a fraud, drifting apart from your friends and family, giving up hobbies, missing opportunities, etc.  The list goes on and on.

If you care to share any moments of unmanagability due to your addiction, we would love to hear from you.  Please click the comment button below. 

MP3 Recovery Downloads

Dr. Milton Magness is offering numerous recovery-related MP3 downloads at www.RecoveryOnTheGo.com.  They are designed to help people make better use of their daily commute and exercise time.  Some of the titles include:

• Am I a Sex Addict?
• Getting Started in Recovery,
• Accountability in Recovery, and
• Disclosure.

An advantage of MP3s is that they can be listened to again and again to help internalize the recovery tips and tools they contain.

For more information go to www.RecoveryOnTheGo.com or call Dr. Magness at (713) 630-0111.

Women and sex addiction

Two women courageously talk about their childhood molestation and the way their trauma led them to compulsive sexual behaviors.  You can see the video on UTube:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bTJkfUibklY

Let us know what you think by clicking the comment button below. 

Where there's drama, there's trauma!

Sex addicts and their partners always have drama in their lives.  Drama is prevelant because the addict is unconsciously acting out unresolved childhood issues while the partner unconscioulsy reacts to the addict.  The "drama" is rooted in some kind of traumatic experience and, without properly addressing it, the addict and co-addict will continue to run the same patterns over and over again. 

Recovery puts an end to the drama because the recovering addict and partner, begin to address their trauma in addition to their resentments, abuses, hurts, ways they have abused others, secrets, lies, and the lack of integrity in their lives.

If you or someone you know constantly has drama in their lives, you can bet it's coming from unresolved trauma.  The new year is a good time to seek therapy and/or 12- step help so you can start moving in the direction of recovering your life and creating a positive vision for what you want in your future .

Good luck in your recovery!

Grateful Recoverying Sex Addict

This is a wonderful blog where the author shares his recovery, strength and hope.  It's full of resources and information should you or a loved one be struggling with issues of sexual addiction. 

Check it out and let us know what you think! 

http://gratefulrecoveringsexaddict.blogspot.com

Sex Addiction from the Mayo Clinic

On this page, you will find one of the most simple and comprehensive articles I've come across on sexual addiction.  It addresses the following questions:

• What are the signs and symptoms?
• What causes compulsive sexual behaviors?
• What are the risk factors?
• When to seek medical advice
• Is there a way to screen for the problem and is thera a diagnosis?
• What are the complications?
• What does treatment entail?
• What are the best measures for prevention?
• What part does self-care play in recovery?

If you or a loved one is suffering from this problem, you can read the entire article on the Mayo Clinic's site:

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/compulsive-sexual-behavior/DS00144

Do you believe sex addiction is real?

MSNBC is currently running a poll on this topic and here are the findings: Do you believe that sexual addiction is real?   * 12819 responses
	Yes, I think some people have a destructive relationship with sex. 63%
	No, I think it's largely an excuse some people use for cheating or other bad behavior. 30%
	I'm not sure. 7%

What do you think?  Please click the comment button below and let us know. 

Can Sex Addiction be Cured?

People seeking recovery from sex addiciton, or their partners, often ask whether they can be "cured," as if the "condition" were a rash or something that can easily be cleared up.  The truth is that true sex addiction requires a lot of on-going attention to the problem and the underlying conditions that caused the problem.  A true "cure" may never come, but people can stop their problematic, and often, destructive behaviors by getting the right help.

This article, called "How to Cure a Sex Addict," provides clear information about what course a person might take in order to get help for his or her problematic sexual behaviors.

http://slate.com/id/2156023/

Let us know your thoughts on this by clicking the comment button below.

Sexual Compulsivity Workshops for Men

Announcing the 2007-2008 season of the Sexual Compulsivity Workshop for Men. These workshops are designed for men new to recovery, struggling to maintain sobriety, or undecided as to whether they are sexually addicted.  This season is the lucky seventh year for this workshop.

The four fundamental goals of the workshop are:

To understand the origin, function, and consequences of their addiction

To reduce the shame underlying and caused by the addiction

To develop a robust recovery plan and understand tools needed to maintain sobriety

To share the healing experience of healthy community


The dates for these 3-day workshops are:


October 12-14, 2007

February 9-10, 2008

April 11-13, 2008


The workshops are held in beautiful, eclectic Austin, Texas.

The cost is $850.  Meals and accommodations are not included.
Learn more about the workshops at

www.sexual-addict.com/workshops-men.htm

Contact Dr. Michael Johnson directly at 512-928-4357 or Doctor@Sexual-addict.com.



(Workshop Presented by Insight Coaching, LLC)

From Streetwalking to Cyberwalking...

Did you know that prostitution is accessable on Craig's list these days? 

“Craigslist has become the high-tech 42nd Street, where much of the solicitation takes place now,” said Richard McGuire, Nassau’s assistant chief of detectives. “Technology has worked its way into every profession, including the oldest.”

To read the entire article, go to:

http://www.nytimes.com/2007/09/05/nyregion/05craigslist.html?r=1&em&ex=118913760&oref=slogin