Center for Healthy Sex website:centerforhealthysex.com

Free teleclass for gay and bisexual men on healthy sexuality

Joe Kort, author of "10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Find Real Love" is offering a free teleclass for gay and bisexual men on healthy sexuality and will also address sexual addiction and compulsivity. 

Please join him on Tuesday, May 20, 2008 from 8:00 - 9:00 PM EST.

The topic will be on sex, love and intimacy which is the theme of his upcoming workshop “Reclaiming The Man in the Mirror” for gay and bisexual men on June 21-22, 2008.

For information on how to join the class or sign up for the workshop go to:

http://www.joekort.com/gaybiteleclass.htm

Sexual Information for Women

The female life cycle shifts and changes with each passing year and no two women are the same.  There are so many choices, opinions, books, television programs, radio shows, etc. where we can get information today that it can seem overwhelming.

Each one of us needs to listen to our own bodies and pay close attention to what the health patterns were for our grandmothers and mothers.  Never forget that your intuition is your best compass when it comes to making decisions about life cycle changes. 

It's also important to find a health care practitioner whose value system lines up with yours so you feel like someone is on your team versus setting yourself up in a "blind obediance" situation.  Find a medical doctor who is open to alternative practices and consult with both.  This way you can make an informed decision based upon what your needs are.

Estronaut is a comprehensive site for women with clear information addressing women's issues.  http://www.estronaut.com/n/what.htm

Please click on the comment below and let us know if you found this site useful.

Sexual dysfunction in men

Too many men assume they are in serious trouble when they loose their erections during sex play or intercourse or when they ejaculate too rapidly.  This is a very common problem and nothing to be alarmed or ashamed about.

The first reaction is to assume medicine is the answer because we are trained to look for quick fixes in our culture.  If this is a problem for you, and assuming there is no medical condition causing the problem, consider that your problems are most likely anxiety driven.

That's right, anxiety!  When you are not present during sex you're body will let you know.  Worrying that you won't be able to keep your erection, thinking about other things, not connecting with your partner, and/or being absent from the sensations in your body can all lead to erectile dysfunction.

If you would like to read more about this problem, take a look at "Resurrecting Sex" by David Schnarch, Ph.d.  http://www.amazon.com/Resurrecting-Sex_problems_revolutionizing-Relationship/dp/0060931787/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=URF8&S=books&qid=1203789368&sr=1-1

You can also check out this website http://members.aol.com/how2video/welcome.htm or find a sex therapist www.aasect.org who can help you.

Young adults and Pornography

Today, young adults are more familiar with pornography then previous generations.  A study was conducted amoung college age students and the findings are interesting.  According to the study, young women are less likely to look at porn daily, and don't see it as a problem if someone does.  In fact, they state that it's an acceptable way to express sexuality. The author of the study states that we are living in the age of "pocket porn," where porn is always available. 

This is an interesting study as it shows us just how normalized pornography has become in our culture.  Take a look:

http://coaches.aol.com/kids-and-family/feature/_a/study-young-adults-now-find-porn-more/20071213152209990001

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How to find good sex education

People ask me how they can find good sex education for their kids and when they will know if the information is good information.  I think the most important factor in deciding whether the information is good is if the information is age appropriate.  Making sure kids feel comfortable hearing the information can make a difference in whether they can take in the information and use it constructively, or feel shamed about it.  Shaming can shut them down at best and traumatize them at worst. 

This article gives you all the elements of good sex education and offers accurate information in context and is respectful of the audience receiving the sex education.

Take a look at the article by clicking this link:

http://sexuality.about.com/od/seekingsexualhelp/p/sex_education.htm

Teen angst and sexual wisdom

Jennifer Freed, Ph.d. writes:

Angst and the teenager. Like bread and butter, right? One of the main sources of their suffering comes from the consequences young people encounter from unconscious decision making around sexual choices. They still get and transmit STD's, they frequently sleep with people when they are high or drunk, and they have sex because they want to be liked.

Relationship Wisdom engages the young person in a conscious working of their own values, desires, and dreams relating to their sexual journey.  This consumable workbook contains over 30 exercises with blank journal pages throughout.  It is designed for teens to become aware of their sexuailty and their sexual practices increasing their emotional intelligence in the process.

For mor information on Relationship Wisdom, contact Dr. Freed at 805-681-0022 or www.indepthpress.com

Korea creates "boot camps" for cyber addiction

Cyber addiction has become such a problem, with youth actually dropping dead, that the Korean government has created "boot camp" style rehabs to help people stop. 

Read this article in the NY Times and give us your feedback.

http://www.nytimes.com/2007/11/18/technology/19rehab.html?ei=5070&en=d49d81bf57a342ea&ex=1196053200&adxnnl=1&emc=eta1-N5bgxuc3XrT8KvVOpZfnRw

Is Porn Right or Wrong?

Do you think pornograhy is a problem in and of itself?  Or does the person partaking in it turn it into a problem based on their past traumas and feelings of shame?  What is right and what is wrong for you when it comes to viewing porn?  Do you think about this and where it fits into your life, community, family?  When was the last time you had a serious talk about porn with your spouse and/or teenage children?

Ron Jeremy, porn star and Michael Leahy, recovering sex addict travel around the country and debate these issues.  You can learn more about their debates by going to:

http://www.kansan.com/stroies/2007/oct/02/debate_pits_porn_addict_against_ron_jeremy

Professional Therapy Never Includes Sex

The California Board of Consumer Affairs has published a pamphlet called "Professional Therapy Never Includes Sex."

If you've never been in therapy and have questions about this topic, or if you have been in therapy and feel you have been violated sexually, take a look at this clear and simple pamphlet for specific information and answers to your questions. 

http://www.psychboard.ca.gov/pubs/prof.pdf

Study shows abstinence doesn't impact unprotected sex

There is a lot of controversy as to whether abstinence programs work and if they do, what areas they most impact.

Abstinence is the primary directive for sex education in the United States today and has supporters in the UK.  The British Medical Journal stated that an Oxford University team "found abstinence programmes had no negative or positive impact on the rates of sex infections or unprotected sex."

For the complete story go to the BBC news at http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/6927733.stm