Sexual dysfunction in men

Too many men assume they are in serious trouble when they loose their erections during sex play or intercourse or when they ejaculate too rapidly.  This is a very common problem and nothing to be alarmed or ashamed about.

The first reaction is to assume medicine is the answer because we are trained to look for quick fixes in our culture.  If this is a problem for you, and assuming there is no medical condition causing the problem, consider that your problems are most likely anxiety driven.

That's right, anxiety!  When you are not present during sex you're body will let you know.  Worrying that you won't be able to keep your erection, thinking about other things, not connecting with your partner, and/or being absent from the sensations in your body can all lead to erectile dysfunction.

If you would like to read more about this problem, take a look at "Resurrecting Sex" by David Schnarch, Ph.d.  http://www.amazon.com/Resurrecting-Sex_problems_revolutionizing-Relationship/dp/0060931787/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=URF8&S=books&qid=1203789368&sr=1-1

You can also check out this website http://members.aol.com/how2video/welcome.htm or find a sex therapist www.aasect.org who can help you.